In my last blog post on 3 Tips on Over-Coming Your Fear of Public Speaking, I briefly alluded to the fact that well-handled goof-ups can make your remarks even more powerful and memorable.
But, you are probably thinking, that is easier said than done. In the heat of the moment, one can sometimes freeze, like a deer in headlights.
We wonder how the heck to dig ourselves out of that particular verbal hole in the ground (where we might actually want to sink, if it were possible).
Having dug a few verbal holes in the ground for myself over the years, I would like to share with you some strategies you might find helpful.
FIRST: Forgive yourself (preferably in advance) for being human
That’s a pretty big stretch for some of us, especially those of us who are perfectionists (guilty as charged). The sad truth is that none of us is perfect; and the happy truth is that everyone in your audience knows it.
People are usually a lot less shocked by a speaker goofing up than the speaker is about having done it. Therefore, if you then carry on after the goof; people are actually relieved for you, and even more relieved that you are up there instead of them.
SECOND: You can use a physical gesture to acknowledge the goof
It is in no way necessary to verbally apologize for a goof; unless, of course, you inadvertently insult someone or use inappropriate language. A simple shrug of the shoulders, along with a quizzical I can’t believe I said that expression on your face, is all you may need to do before continuing on with your message.
THIRD: If possible, incorporate the goof into your speech
If you can actually come up with some way, particularly a humorous way, to include the goof in your remarks; for example, if you can relate it to some point you wish to make, your speech will become much more memorable than it would have been otherwise.
The four unadvertised bonuses of well handled public speaking goofs:
(1) Knowing you don’t have to do it perfectly to do it well, you can feel much more comfortable giving speeches;
(2) Strange but true: people tend to pay better attention after you have goofed;
(3) You will more effectively impress your audience with your expertise and knowledge of the subject (not to mention your unflappable demeanor); and
(4) You are much more relatable to your audience as a person, and thus more likely to accomplish the goals you set for yourself in giving the speech in the first place.
I would love to know if any of these suggestions help you feel a little more comfortable about the prospect of putting yourself out there and giving a speech.
In case you missed my prior blog on overcoming your public speaking fears, click here.